The Etiquette Confidence Connection

Jacquelyn Youst is the founder and president of Jacquelyn Youst Etiquette Consulting, LLC

An authority on etiquette, she earned her Protocol Certification through Protocol University, Plymouth, MA. She received certifications in Professional Presence, International Protocol Awareness, Dining Savvy, and Presentation Skills. She furthered her studies with the Charleston School of Protocol studying Professional Table Manners. She is currently a member of the International Association of Professional Etiquette Consultants.

In addition to studying etiquette she is a graduate of the Fashion Stylist Institute. She is a certified image consultant and a member of the The Association of Image Consultants International (AICI)

The Etiquette Confidence Connection


What can we actually do to become confident and what in the world does etiquette have to do with it?


We all know that person that radiates with the “wow” factor.  Their magnetism and presence originated somewhere, but where? Wouldn't it be nice to avoid feeling awkward? Here's the secret, it comes from knowing that what you say and do are within acceptable codes of conduct an behavior. We become confident by practicing etiquette.


The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines that “Confidence is faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way. The definition of etiquette is defined as “The conduct or procedure required by good breeding or prescribed by authority to be observed in social or official life.” Knowing that etiquette is the foundation for confidence gives us good reasons to mind our manners.


The following are tips you can use right now to start the confident ball rolling.


Stand up straight and tall, keep your head level


One way to use etiquette to project confidence is through body language. Body language tells our story before we even speak. Slouching with our head down tells others that we want to be left alone. The opposite is true when we walk tall have good posture and smile.


Make eye contact


There is no better way to show you are confident than by making eye contact. Looking down sends the signal you are unsure.


Give a firm handshake


A handshake conveys emotions and intent. Giving a limp handshake shows you are unsure. Sweaty palms are a sign of nerves and feeling anxious.



Confidence is cultivated over time. You must practice very deliberately everyday until it becomes part of you and your personal style. In time it will become natural and not come across forced. Plan to start with the first person you connect with during the day. Pick your chin up, make eye contact and give a firm handshake.


The modern day translation of etiquette is “ticket” as your ticket in. Confidence is your ticket to opportunity!

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